{"id":3225,"date":"2023-03-29T05:39:33","date_gmt":"2023-03-29T05:39:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/helpusdefend.com\/?p=3225"},"modified":"2023-03-29T05:52:51","modified_gmt":"2023-03-29T05:52:51","slug":"36-questions-that-lead-to-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/helpusdefend.com\/?p=3225","title":{"rendered":"36 questions that lead to love"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"3225\" class=\"elementor elementor-3225\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4b4895b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4b4895b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-16a2c8b\" data-id=\"16a2c8b\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e17fff elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2e17fff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The 36 questions that lead to love<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-f2ed5ce elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"f2ed5ce\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c80e8f9\" data-id=\"c80e8f9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-db2b160 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"db2b160\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><u><b>INSTRUCTIONS:<\/b><\/u><\/p><p><b>If you&#8217;re on a dating app online, use these questions to screen out bad apples and to possibly find love!<\/b><u><b><br \/><\/b><\/u><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-51b0665 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"51b0665\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Identify someone with whom you\u2019d like to become closer. It could be<br \/>someone you know well or someone you\u2019re just getting to know. Although<br \/>this exercise has a reputation for making people fall in love, it is actually useful for anyone<br \/>you want to feel close to, including family members, friends, and<br \/>acquaintances. Before trying it, make sure both you and your partner are<br \/>comfortable with sharing personal thoughts and feelings with each<br \/>other.<\/li><li>Find a time when you and your partner have at least 45 minutes free and are able to meet in person.<\/li><li>For 15 minutes, take turns asking one another the questions in Set I<br \/>below. Each person should answer each question, but in an alternating<br \/>order, so that a different person goes first each time.\u00a0<\/li><li>After 15 minutes, move on to Set II, even if you haven\u2019t yet<br \/>finished the Set I questions. Then spend 15 minutes on Set II, following<br \/>the same system.\u00a0<\/li><li>After 15 minutes on Set II, spend 15 minutes on Set III. (Note:<br \/>Each set of questions is designed to be more probing than the previous<br \/>one. The 15-minute periods ensure that you spend an equivalent amount of<br \/>time at each level of self-disclosure).<\/li><\/ul><p><strong>Set I<\/strong><\/p><p>1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?<\/p><p>2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?<\/p><p>3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?<\/p><p>4. What would constitute a \u201cperfect\u201d day for you?<\/p><p>5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?<\/p><p>6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the<br \/>mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which<br \/>would you want?<\/p><p>7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?<\/p><p>8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.<\/p><p>9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?<\/p><p>10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?<\/p><p>11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.<\/p><p>12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?<\/p><p><strong>Set II<\/strong><\/p><p>13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your<br \/>life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?<\/p><p>14. Is there something that you\u2019ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven\u2019t you done it?<\/p><p>15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?<\/p><p>16. What do you value most in a friendship?<\/p><p>17. What is your most treasured memory?<\/p><p>18. What is your most terrible memory?<\/p><p>19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?<\/p><p>20. What does friendship mean to you?<\/p><p>21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?<\/p><p>22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.<\/p><p>23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people\u2019s?<\/p><p>24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?<\/p><p><strong>Set III<\/strong><\/p><p>25. Make three true \u201cwe\u201d statements each. For instance, \u201cWe are both in this room feeling\u2026\u201d\u00a0<\/p><p>26. Complete this sentence: \u201cI wish I had someone with whom I could share\u2026\u201d<\/p><p>27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.<\/p><p>28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this<br \/>time, saying things that you might not say to someone you\u2019ve just met.<\/p><p>29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.<\/p><p>30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?<\/p><p>31. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].<\/p><p>32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?<\/p><p>33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to<br \/>communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told<br \/>someone? Why haven\u2019t you told them yet?<\/p><p>34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After<br \/>saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final<br \/>dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?<\/p><p>35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?<\/p><p>36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner\u2019s advice on how<br \/>they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how<br \/>you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.<\/p><p>You can try this practice with different people you want to develop a<br \/>deeper connection with\u2014but if your answers start to feel routine,<br \/>consider making up your own list of questions that become increasingly<br \/>more personal. <a href=\"http:\/\/dx.doi.org\/10.1111\/pere.12058\">Two couples can also try this practice together<\/a>, which has been shown to increase closeness\u00a0<em>between\u00a0<\/em>the couples in addition to enhancing closeness and passionate love\u00a0<em>within\u00a0<\/em>each couple.<\/p><p><b>Looking for love now? Try Dating Square from 65square. 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